Thirty years ago spanking was one of those fetishes that you kept in the closet. I remember times when I would talk about spanking with friends or even go into an adult book store and spanking was always in the category of BDSM. That always bothered me because I'm not really into Bondage Discipline Sado Masochism.
Now today there are videos and pictures out there of fetishes I can't begin to understand or get into. There are videos about Barbershop fetishes, Band Aid fetishes, Brake Failure, Clowns and so on. And that's just some of the "B" and into the "C's". Now to each his/her own but now a days spanking seems more normal to people out side of spanking than it did 20 or 30 years ago.
I probably get 3 or 4 emails a week from women who tell me they want a spanking from me. It happens so often that I tend to forget about them too because rarely do they ever email a second or third time. It's more of an impulse thing for them.
There have been a few who go pretty close to actually going through with it but in the end they back out. I have heard from a lot of women about bad experiences with finding someone to spank them and it didn't go the way they thought it would. There are a lot of spankers out there who really CAN'T spank. You might think that's silly but it is true. But at the same time there are spankees who really can't take a spanking either and they tell you before hand that they can. I ALWAYS do warm up spankings. In part because it gets the spankees bottom warmed up to a more intense spanking but I mostly do it to gauge how much she can actually take.
In many ways spanking is more of an art for both the Spanker and spankee. I suppose what I'm trying to say here is that being spanked or being a Spanker is not all that strange so explore and have fun.